Living away from loved ones can be an exciting experience and at the same time frustrating .Life might not be the same because of the vaccum created by the absence of loved ones. That was how I felt when I had to go to college, leaving my family behind.
Likewise every child that is used to been around the parent at all time.
This could be challenging getting life started on your own without dad and mom to bail you out when in need of a helping hand. The first thing to do is to study the new environment and get acquainted with your new roomies in the dorm if that is the case. Open your heart to making new friends so that the absence of loved ones will not be easily felt. Your new friends become a part of your new life to help you wave off boredom.
Secondly, you should avoid going home frequently, so that you can get yourself in the mind set of living independently with every accountability of your actions. Let your new home be as comfortable as it could be.
Be sure to learn to do some of the things that are taken care of by mom and dad at home so that when you are out there alone, you don’t get frustrated. Never be shy to ask to learn some chores like cooking for yourself, doing the laundry and getting to do some little car maintenance if you have one.
Get in touch with family and friends as often as you can so that though you are far from home you are still current about what is going on while you are away. This gives you a sense of belonging even though you are far away.
The fun , the excitement and the lessons learned from living away from home makes you a better, responsible and accountable person. Don’t be scared you can do this just take a day at a time.
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I left home almost nine years ago, and I wish I had some advice like this. I had gotten married, my husband was in the Navy, and we were moved across the country. Being an introvert, it was especially hard for me to make friends, but eventually, everything worked out. Good luck with being away from home. :o)
ReplyDeleteEmptiness and Loneliness are very common with leaving home but one can over come it by taking a day at a time and getting use to the new environment.
ReplyDeleteThis almost brings a tear to my eye. My daughter will be leaving for college next year and I worry about her and maybe I worry about me a little more. She is a busy bee and I hope I taught her what she needs to know to not be to homesick. Thank you for sharing it has given me a few new things to think about and discuss with her.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice. I wish I would have read this when I left home and my mom moved to California. It's really hard to be alone, but amazing experiences can come out of it.
ReplyDeleteThis is very good advice for a first timer moving away from home. I'm a very independent sort, so moving out on my own was a big adventure for me. I had an exciting new job, so I was never really lonely. Plus I met my future husband. Jackie Sullivan
ReplyDeleteGood advice, taking the steps to move out and actually giving your self some space from the family but still keeping in touch really does make you want to be a responsible person and do good by your family.
ReplyDeleteGood advice. I left my home about 4 years ago, and it is still difficult for me. I do not mean the living by my own, it is ok for me, but i really miss my home and family. I only disagree with avoiding going home frequently, I would like to go home as often as possible, but unfortunately it is impossible.
ReplyDeleteGood advice for anyone who has recently left home, or is going to leave home soon. When I left home, I went straight to boot camp for the Marine Corps, so I didn't have the option of going home, but I understand how the temptation to go back home could make it hard to acclimate to your new surroundings.
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This blog is very interesting for me since I recently moved out of my parent's house. It is very difficult, I realized I depended on my parents more than I could of imagined. I actually call my mother very often specially when it comes to cooking. It is a part of life we learn little by little day by day.
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Adebisi, I like your post very much because it is very genuine, and I see comes from a sensitive part in your life journey. Leaving home is never fun, I know first-hand what you mean, and the emotions, and homesickness that comes with it. You are very brave for making this huge step in the direction of better opportunities and becoming an independent individual. Congratulations on learning to adapt for yourself, best wishes, and I hope you get to see your family during this Christmas season! :)
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